Practical Language for Parents

Instead of correcting behaviour, try:

• “I see you’re having a big feeling.”
• “Your feelings make sense.”
• “What do you need right now?”
• “I’m here to help you find words.”

Real-Life Example:
A child throws their school bag across the playground after school. The adult responds: “School took a lot out of you today. Let’s sit together and figure out what you need before homework.”

Skill Building Takes Time

Remember: emotional regulation is a developmental process, not a skill children can instantly access.

Real-Life Example:
A child who previously melted down daily may slowly begin to pause and seek help. This progress is subtle and cumulative, built through repeated moments of co-regulation.

Co-regulation is the bodies ability to regulate to another human. To understand this further complete The Calm Parent Path.